Me after reading an email from Guppy 2's principal!
As a child who was born in the 1970's (YIKES!), I can admit that our parents got a LOT of stuff wrong...smoking while pregnant....not wearing a seat belt....BIKE HELMET? What's that?..Etc.
However, in my opinion, here's one thing our parents did NOT get wrong...
Letting us "older kids" (11 or 12 and up) get a little freedom after school, on the weekends, and during the summer. I remember walking around my small town with my friends....visiting the local convenient store to buy candy, heading off to the park, even (once we were 13 plus) heading to the local pizza place and ordering pizza. These little tastes of freedom helped us learn about the world and how we would eventually function in it. We learned to problem solve (making sure we had enough money on us to buy "x,y, & z" PLUS tax!), to be social, and to just start to navigate the world around us without having our parents over our shoulders....not that they ever were in the '70's. LOL
Why am I rambling on about this?
Guppy 2 has an upcoming half day from school. Her middle school is very close to some prime teen locations....one direction there is a pizza place that everyone in town loves...the other direction leads to a popular coffee shop, a froyo place, another pizza joint, Subway, and a supermarket. All wonderful places for 7th and 8th graders to test out the waters of responsibility, right? Apparently the principal doesn't think so.
Here is an excerpt of an email that was sent to us....
"Due to increased concerns regarding student safety, loitering, and lack of courtesy to members of the community and business owners, students will not be permitted to go into town from school without parent notification to the main office. On this day, students without notification must go home via their normal means of transportation. If students go into town, parents should provide transportation from home."
I get the local newspaper and there has NOT been any incidents on half days as far as I can tell. I also know the pizza places and froyo places LOVE the extra revenue half days generate.
What's next? My daughter loves to go to a local burger joint and then bowling on the weekends...Should I ask the principal's permission then too?
You may be wondering why I don't just "write the note" and be done with it. Well, first let's not forget that I need to provide the transportation then too because, apparently, I haven't taught my daughter how to cross a street.
And, more than that...
I try to give my daughter freedom to make plans and choices within reason. There are many days I will get a text from her during lunch period asking if she can stay afterschool for a club, extra help in a class, etc. or go walk into town with friends. And, I like the fact that (thank you cell phones) she and her friends can do this sort of thing.
They will be going into high school next year and I KNOW that once the bell rings and the kids are off school property, administration doesn't care what they do...And why is that? Because we are trying to raise teenagers into functioning adults!
Oh and the high school doesn't do it, because you know, LEGALLY they can't!
And neither can the middle school principal!
I don't know what G2 wants to do yet on her half day. She and her friends haven't decided as of yet. But, guess what? I AM HER PARENT! I will decide what she will or won't do, not the principal. Once she is off school property, he can suck it!
For those of you with kids in public school, have any of your children's principals tried to pull this?