This morning I am heading off to a local coffee shop to meet an old friend. Our daughters are the same age, were close friends in kindergarten, and for the past two years have been part of the same tight group of friends. We drifted apart six years ago for lots of reasons but it seems the "right time" to try to mend the fences.
She has a lot going on in her life without a lot of people to rely on. The friends she chose in the past few years have all but deserted her and it makes me sad since I know that there are people I can rely on in my life....NO MATTER WHAT.
I genuinely like "C" and feel horrible about the past. Six years ago, I became "friends" with a few women who cared too much about image and gossip....Papa called them "The Cackling Hens". I fell into the group like a high schooler, feeling the thrill of belonging. They didn't like "C", along with many other women in the town and did everything they could to poison me against her. I took the bait and that's all on me. I am ashamed of the person I was for that year or so that I was part of 'The Cackling Hen" crowd. I woke up and severed all ties with these women about five years ago and, in doing so, became "me" again - not image conscious in the least and kind!
So, this morning will be about clearing the air of the past and trying to be a good listener for "C". I feel like the least I could do is try to be the friend I should have been for all these years. Friends are important as we all get older but good friends are worth their weight in gold.
Have a great Tuesday!