Remember how I said on Monday we were going to decorate the Christmas trees and I was going to enjoy every minute of it?
Yeah, well tree trimming definitely didn't happen that night.
Papa and I spent the night watching over Guppy 2.....
Guppy 2 has been having some difficulty over the past two months. She told me several weeks ago that she was having some trouble concentrating. We have noticed she has been moodier than usual but chalked it up to her being a fourteen year old high school freshman. Her grades slightly slipped - nothing below a C but still unusual for her. Papa and I had decided that if the concentration issue continued past the first of the year, we would contact the pediatrician to check into ADHD or something similar.
Whelp, everything came to a head Monday night when Guppy 2's boyfriend broke up with her VIA TEXT even though he had been at our house for the afternoon and showed ZERO signs of wanting to break up.
To make matters worse, Papa got a text from G2's now ex asking him to watch over her because she had told her best friend she wanted to hurt herself. (If you are wondering why he was the one to text Papa, it was because for some weird reason he was the only one who had Papa's cell number and G2 was using my cell since hers is currently broken.)
I immediately went to talk to G2 and she admitted that she did tell the BFF that and she thinks she has been depressed for awhile....
Like since right around the time we noticed the change in her.
And then everything finally clicked in my head and I earned the "Worst Mom of the Century" award.
I kicked Papa out of our bedroom and had G2 sleep with me Monday night.
Bright and early on Tuesday, I called the pediatrician and yesterday G2 went to be evaluated for depression and started therapy.
G2 responded well to the therapist - which is a nice hurdle to have jumped - and said that the feelings of self harm were just a reaction to the breakup. However, she said the depression was definitely there prior to Monday night. She is going to have weekly sessions with the therapist so they can see if what's going on with her can be worked through without medication first.
Also, I emailed G2's guidance counselor at school (who thankfully is the same one as G1's) and told her what was happening. The guidance counselor called G2 up yesterday morning, introduced her to the social worker, and the two of them showed her around the office - they have a very cool room where stressed/depressed kids can go hang out to regroup during the day - and came up with a check in plan for G2 during school hours.
Last evening, G2 seemed a bit more like herself - I think she felt some relief in being able to talk to K (the therapist) and the guidance counselor and social worker at school. She told me that "Mrs. S" (the school social worker) gives the best hugs. I think she feels good having a plan in place to help her overcome this.
And, I think having a tremendously supporting group of friends doesn't hurt either.
While not how I planned on spending December, I guess I should be thankful in a way to her ex because if he hadn't broken up with her we still wouldn't have put the pieces together.
My heart still hurts for her though. For all of it. Not just the first boyfriend breakup but for the depression too.
Anyway, sorry for the rambling. I do have a point in all of this....
We aren't rich and have limited resources in both money and time. BUT, I plan on using those resources to the fullest for the month by planning as many wonderful experiences for us as I can. And, yes, I will probably over do the present aspect of the season as well - even though I KNOW that things aren't what makes people happiest.
I will try to find bargains and discounts where I can. I will try to save as much as humanly possible at the grocery store. I will cut out anything and everything that has to do with just me and Papa.
But, my focus has changed. Right or wrong. I plan on making sure this season is as bright as I can for my family.
With that, I'm off to shower, walk the dog, and get some errands accomplished.
P.S. In case you are wondering, the trees did get decorated last evening. G2 felt up to it and the four of us had a really great couple of hours listening to Christmas music, trimming the trees, and just being together.